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Love is the light and forward is the motion – BarbaraO

Sometimes I get sidetracked into thinking that I want the place at the table that someone else has. And even though I know that all good things come from the same source – one that never runs out – why then get caught up in comparison, competition and take overs? Yet He gives us all sufficiently in all things – an abundance for every good work…..

It is in the eagerness to know, the desire to control and the inability to surrender that creates fear – Acts of Faith


That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet – Emily Dickinson

I just finished a fantastic fictional inspirational book by Robin Sharma – The Saint, The Surfer & The CEO. These 3 characters as described in the title become unlikely but invaluable teachers who help to answer the questions:

  • Did I live wisely?
  • Did I love well?
  • Did I serve greatly?

As we aspire to grow, our less than ideal traits can be precious treasures that offer gateways into higher versions of the people we currently are. What you don’t own about yourself, owns you and so your current reality is nothing more than a reflection of the lessons you most need to learn. R. Sharma makes this easier to accept by asking you to imagine that everyone is enlightened but you and is teaching you patience, wisdom and compassion.Knowledge is the start of personal excellence so close your integrity gap by being true to self.

The waste of life lies in the love we have not given. Learn to follow the flow of life by living from your heart and not your head. Don’t pass your treasure in the quest for some rare and perfect tomorrow. Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakens – Carl Jung. To make the gifts of your heart more available to to yourself, follow your bliss – Keep knocking and the joy inside will eventually open up to you as the more love you give yourself the more you have available for others.

If not now then when? We have 99 reasons for failure but not a single excuse. Live by more inspired standards as you seek out ways to add value and enrich the lives of others. Focus on being more not making more and rather than pray for fewer problems, ask for greater wisdom. Make meaning, not money as success lies not just in reaching our goals but through personal transformation.

Thomas Campbell says that to live in the hearts we leave behind is not to die. What legacy are you going to leave.


Thoughts become things…. choose the good ones!

Sometimes one can learn much more about life, love, and happiness, when they’re single than when they’re in a relationship, when they’re looking for work than when they’re working, when they’re confused than when they’re clear, and so on…

And if they allow themselves to learn what there is to learn, rather than resist, their life will be transformed, and that which was, will be no longer.

Thoughts become things…. choose the good ones! (Get more notes like these from

That has been the summary of my life in 2012 – Now time to apply the lessons.



Meditation is to the mind what aerobic exercise is to the body.

A quintessential training of attention. Getting better control of your attention is the foundation of changing your brain, and thus your life, for the better.

Some benefits:

  • Lifts mood
  • Promotes learning
  • Reduces age-related diseases
  • Supports the executive functions, self-control, and guiding attention

The best meditation of all is . . . the one you will do. So find what you like and will stick with.Relax. Rest. Come into a sense of presence with yourself. Know whether you are meditating in relationship to something transcendental (such as in prayer) or find something to anchor attention, such as the sensations of breathing, a word or phrase (e.g., “peace”), or an image. Use an anchor that is stimulating enough to keep yourself present; feel free to do walking meditation or use an audio program to guide you. Meditating with others can also help you stay focused.

Start by giving attention fully to the anchor, letting go of everything else. Center in it, becoming absorbed in it, even for just a few breaths or few minutes.

Then, with an ongoing awareness of your anchor, let your attention widen to include your body . . . thoughts . . . feelings . . . wants . . . and overall mental atmosphere. You’re not trying to make your mind blank. Let things come and go, just don’t jump on board of them. Without stress or strain, gently open to relaxing and quieting, and to an increasingly stable presence as experiencing, being a body breathing in peace.

Meditate for as long as you like. Even one minute is good – and ten, twenty, or even forty-five minutes could be even better.

Adapted from Rick Hanson, Ph.D., neuropsychologist, author of Just One Thing (JOT) – a free newsletter that suggests a simple practice each week for more joy, more fulfilling relationships, and more peace of mind.


It doesn’t have to glitter to be gold #ArthurAshe

They We always want and need stuff. They WE eat and sleep too much. They We talk too loud and walk too slow. They We give you your first grey hair. They We grow up and get better. But imagine how empty the world would be if we didn’t have our children parents to love us?

Many parents believe that if children are left to their own devices, they will destroy themselves. There’s a difference between discipline and thinking, disobedience and thinking, respect and thinking. Children are just people living through a smaller body. They must learn to express themselves, to understand who they are and grow from it. So, think wrongly if you please but in all cases think for yourself – Louisa May Alcott. But just because your children do not think as you do doesn’t mean they are wrong.

Wisdom from Iyanla Vanzant – Acts of Faith


Our greatest problems in life come not so much from the situations we confront as from our doubts about our ability to handle them #Susan Taylor

A strong man masters others; a truly wise man masters himself. Life cannot get better until we are better. We cannot get more until we are more. What you believe about the world is exactly what you will experience – as it is a reflection of your thoughts. You must act as of it is impossible to fail. Your world is as big as you make it. Either you happen to life or it will never happen for you. The better you are at life, the better it gets. What you believe about the world is exactly what you will experience because that is what you bring into the world.

You must structure your world so that you are constantly reminded who you are. Let your world promote your growth and true identity. If we celebrate, nurture and support ourselves, we will not need anyone to do it for us. Your life is the only true measure of your faith. If there is anything or anyone of unworthiness in your life ask ‘To what am I giving my faith?’ Joy is not what happens to you, it is what comes through you when you are conscious of the blessing that you are. Help your friends with the things you know, for you know these things by Grace (Maxims of Ptahhotpe).

Why would you place our minds and bodies within reach of people and situations of abuse and neglect? We are to ourselves the most valuable possession we have. Yet we waste our time, energy and sometimes our lives in worthless situations among people who are unworthy. We must value our ideas, our energy, our time and our life to such an infinite degree that we become unwilling to waste who we are. When you know where you are going, the universe will clear a path for you – Plan Life’s Alternatives Now!

Loving yourself means you accept responsibility for your own development, growth and happiness. It means that you set the standards for how you want to be treated. People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When we figure which one it is, we know exactly what to do. But beware; instant intimacy is very often followed by desperate disillusion (May Sarton). It is not our duty or responsibility to change the minds of people. However in your presence they have the opportunity to learn about you and perhaps to grow. Contribute to the enlightenment of the world by spending less time on what others think and more time creating positive change.

Lessons from Iyanla Vanzant’s Acts of Faith (April – August)


In Tune With Life

Everybody likes Beyonce. The girls they want to be like her. The boys, they wish they could be with her. With the millions of fans and consequently millions in her bank, I can only imagine the work that has gone into the success that is her career. After all, we all know those who have crumbled under the scrutiny and pressure to consistently fulfill the expectations of their perceived awesomeness. Behind closed doors, when she’s taken off her glorious wig and false eyelashes – there’s no such thing as perfect – do you ever wonder what it is that inspires, motivates and most importantly, reaffirms that she is truly fulfilling her purpose?. The answer, according to Journalist Arthur Sheldon – They profit most who serve best.

Life, beyond fulfilling the daily expectations of society, is about having a heartfelt impact on the lives of those around you. What you do then becomes a blessing you enjoy and something that allows your unique talents and gifts to serve others. We do, after all, learn and grow not only by what we do but by why and how we do it. As the New Radicals sang it – Hold on tight; you’ve got the music in you. Don’t let go; you’ve got a reason. Don’t forget you only get what you give.

I like the English idiom – A little hard work never killed anybody. But why take the chance, you might ask? Because even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there – at least according to author Will Rogers. Take a plunge within yourself to find the strength and freedom you may be seeking on the shores of life. Share! Volunteer! Give a compliment when you can. Even Bob Marley urged if you don’t start somewhere, you’re going to go nowhere. So how about a little more bite and a little less bark. A little less fight and a little more spark. Close your mouth and open up your heart with a little less conversation and a little more action!

Author David Whyte says that if you look at the root of the word “courage,” it doesn’t mean wearing a Sylvester Stallone headband, with glistening biceps and bandoliers of ammunition around your neck. It comes from the French word “Coeur “ meaning “heart.” So “courage” is the measure of your heartfelt participation in the world.
In the words of the famous Canadian rapper, Drake – well, famous to the young and the young at heart – You Only Live Once. What mark are you going to leave? Rather than a scraggly note scratched under an old seat, partially covered in 3 month old chewing gum, how about you write it on someone’s heart and keep them singing your song – I WAS HERE!


This is faith via @allyvest

We have this picture in our mind of faith being super serious. At least I do. When I think of faith I think of soft, quiet, spiritual moments of prayer, fasting or meditation. Those things are expressions of faith, sure. But it just occurred to me today that so often faith is just doing life the way we do it, submitting to the reality that we don’t have control over everything, admitting and acknowledging that God does, and that He is good. His reality is better than ours.

If we’re doing life with God, in relationship to him, we don’t have to muster up an experience of faith or call it into being. We have all kinds of opportunities to acknowledge our place in the universe, and His, on a daily basis.

Faith is lived in the everyday, as we admit our humanness, our hunger and thirst, our need for sleep and human touch, our ability to feel scared, sad or hurt. Faith is the act of acknowledging these limitations, and turning to The One who is not limited like we are. It’s asking Him to meet needs we can’t meet for ourselves.

It isn’t mustered or white-knuckled, or gripped.

It’s surrendered.

Extract from Allison Vesterfelt’s Blog

A friend Indeed

To have and to hold

To love and to grow

To watch and behold

To trust and to know

That ours is a gift from God

For I did not earn or become

Learn or discern

Prove or deserve

This friendship that holds me, grows me and reminds me

How wonderful, real and true life really is

Surely He has intended that goodness and grace shall follow me

Never in strife … All of the days of my life!


Under the cape of superwoman

The last few weeks have flown like the wind in what has been the most intense time of my life. That explains why my answer to the all too common question of how work has been is always – I’m on 110%! And even though it’s just a figure of speech, I really do feel like I’ve been running on fuel beyond my production – The Grace of God as I know it best.

A few months back, I had some serious plans for my life – the type parents are usually proud of, but if the past few weeks are anything to go by then its time I really threw away my “box”. I still don’t have a full time paying job or concrete plans for the future; I certainly haven’t lost those blasted extra 15 pounds what with the flexibility of my schedule and the thought of my numerous ever increasing overdue membership subscriptions make me shudder in silent horror! Yet in throws of my largely financial woes (read I’m ashamed to still be depending on my mom) I managed to help organize 2 great events back to back under unbelievably dire circumstances and even successfully prepare for my 1st Toastmasters speech for which I won best speaker of the night.

Doesn’t seem too grand until I add the 2 hour nights followed by 5 hour painfully repetitive calls in my best happy pretend voice despite the curt rejections and even blatant ignoring – Ingredients for a fine a** aneurism. But beneath all that, I managed to realize that a big part of me successfully flailing through the murky waters of my life has to do with the influence of women I have come to regard as Uber Super!

One is a lady I like to call Madam President – usually because of her bossiness but mostly because of her ridiculously compassionate nature. I never met anyone so selfless, even to a fault. I’m usually the first to encourage her to look out for herself but end up having to eat my own words because Lady Karma definitely has her back. To whom much is given, much is expected. He profits most, who serves best!

Another, I figure is sitting on the deepest wells of passion and integrity. I always think I’ve seen it all and sometimes I think just to mock me, she takes me to a whole new level of inspiration. Very few have the courage to create a powerful vision for their lives and stand for what they truly desire even when circumstances dictate otherwise. How else do you expect to carry yourself into the life of your dreams? ImaGIne, BElieve, BEcome!

Not to sound cliché but even serial killers have a spot for their moms. And even thought it tickles me every time she says “shieve” instead of “sieve”, that woman has been my fortress! When I didn’t know it, need it or deserve it. That love has influenced support from the rest of my family – even if out of obligation – that I will be eternally grateful for.

So here I am, playing my part as the mostly faithful sidekick, even as the Director prepares a script with me as the lead – My own show! I have a few alter ego names in mind. Titles anyone?


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